Getting divorced can be expensive and messy. Despite divorce rates being at an all-time high of almost half, people are still getting married.
Do you feel that you are in an unhealthy marriage and are contemplating divorce? Let’s take a look at many reasons people get divorced, the most common signs you need a divorce are based on people not taking marriage seriously.
Fools Rush in
Sometimes people just rush in way too fast and go from dating straight to marriage before they even really give themselves time to figure things out and get to know each other. And, one morning they wake up next to a stranger with a wedding band in their hand.
Lack of Communication
In any relationship, communication is the most important thing. No matter if it is a friendship, business partnership, or romantic relationship, there needs to be verbal (and nonverbal) communication happening. When we allow a marriage to take place with someone that doesn’t communicate or that we can’t communicate with it probably will not be healthy or end well, but you can therapy.
No More Spark
When a relationship is first beginning everything is new and fun and there are sparks between the two people. Most of the time this fades away. What you are left with is reality, and hopefully love that is strong enough to survive without a ton of electric sparks when they kiss, etc.
They Want Different Things
Major topics such as children, choosing where to live, or what type of lifestyle they want to have can be deal breakers for some people. And, if these things are not discussed truthfully before the vows are exchanged they can raise major problems in the relationship.
Grow Apart
It is part of being human to grow as individuals, and we do not always grow with our partners. There are times when we just grow apart. Do you feel like you have grown apart from your partner and can no longer connect with them as you once did?
Abuse
When we talk about abuse it is not limited only to physical harm. Abuse can also be mental or emotional. It may not show up before the marriage, but once it shows itself it is a huge red flag that it is time to get out.
An abusive person is more likely to continue than to change. Have it recognized that you will not put up with the abuse, and leave.
Someone Is Unfaithful
We are living in a world where there is a lot of temptation to cheat when we are in a traditional monogamous relationship, and most times there is some type of trouble in the marriage that causes one person to be led astray. Not every infidelity will cause a marriage to end, but it is a common reason for couples to break up.
They Don’t Want to Put in the Work
Marriages are a lot of work. It takes constant effort to keep a relationship healthy and growing. When a marriage becomes stagnant partners start to lose interest and all types of troubles can start.
The Many Reasons People Get Divorced
The reasons people get divorced vary, but if you feel like you are unhappy in your marriage you really do not need to fall into one of these categories or have a specific reason. Don’t stay just because you said a vow or because you have kids or a joint bank account. Check out more topics about getting the best out of your life on our page!